"surviving without romance"

how do you define love? well early 90's in africa, romantic love for them is the love for God and their children, it is how the african women of the early 90's define love, and it is so hard to read the book about the african women because of the total discrimination and superiority and dominance of the african men over women. The african women works hard for her family, fetch water from a far land for her husband, work at a farm, make money and the like. african has less privileges. they are really pitiful but also i salute them for their love to GOD. They put GOD at the center of their lives.

Having you near me..

hello guys! I just wanna make a suggestion to all of you there who are so much in love with your partners...try listen to the song "Having you near me " by air supply...its very inspiring!hehehe...I so love the song!

a story bout lie

Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life that was on the right side of town. She unpacked her things with such great ease. As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze. How wonderful it was to have her own room. School would be starting, she would have friends over soon. There will be sleep-overs, and parties. She was so happy. It's just the way she wanted her life to be.

On the first day of school, everything went great. She made new friends and even got a date! She thought, "I want to be popular and I'm going to be, because I just got a date with the star of the team!" To be known in this school you had to have a clout, and dating this guy would sure help her out. There was only one problem stopping her fate. Her parents had said she was too young to date. "Well I just won't tell them the entire truth. They won't know the difference. What's there to lose?"

Jenny asked to stay with her friends that night. Her parents frowned but said, "All right." Excited, she got ready for the big event. But as she rushed around like she had no sense, she began to feel guilty about all the lies, but what's a pizza, a party, and a moonlight ride? Well the pizza was good, and the party was great, and the moonlight ride would have to wait, for Jeff was half drunk by this time.

But he kissed her and said that he was just fine. Then the room filled with smoked and Jeff took a puff. Jenny couldn't believe he was smoking that stuff. Now Jeff was ready to ride to the point, but only after he'd smoked another joint.

They jumped in the car for the moonlight ride, not thinking that he was too drunk to drive. They finally made it to the point at last, and Jeff started trying to make a pass. A pass is not what Jenny wanted at all (and by a pass, I don't mean playing football.) "Perhaps my parents were right. Maybe I am too young. Boy, how could I ever, ever be so dumb?" With all of her might, she pushed Jeff away, "Please take me home, I don't want to stay."

Jeff cranked up the engine and floored the gas. In a matter of seconds they were going too fast. As Jeff drove on in a fit of wild anger, Jenny knew that her life was in danger. She begged and pleaded for him to slow down, but he just got faster as they neared the town. "Just let me get home! I'll confess that I lied. I really went out for a moonlight ride."

Then all of a sudden, she saw a big flash. "Oh God, Please help us! We're going to crash!" She doesn't remember the force of impact. Just that everything all of a sudden went black. She felt someone remove her from the twisted rubble, and heard, "Call an ambulance! These kids are in trouble!" Voices she heard, a few words at best. But she knew there were two cars involved in the wreck.

Then wondered to herself if Jeff was all right, and if the people in the other car was alive. She awoke in the hospital to faces so sad. "You've been in a wreck and it looks pretty bad." These voices echoed inside her head, as they gently told her that Jeff was dead. They said "Jenny, we've done all we can do. But it looks as if we'll lose you too." "But the people in the other car?" Jenny cried. "We're sorry, Jenny, they also died."

Jenny prayed, "God, forgive me for what I've done. I only wanted to have just one night of fun." "Tell those people's family, I've made their lives dim, and wish I could return their families to them." "Tell Mom and Dad I'm sorry I lied, and that it's my fault so many have died. Oh, nurse, won't you please tell them that for me?"

The nurse just stood there. She never agreed. But took Jenny's hand with tears in her eyes. And a few moments later Jenny died. A man asked the nurse, "Why didn't you do your best to bid that girl her one last request?" She looked at the man with eyes so sad. "Because the people in the other car were her mom and dad."

if you love someone poem....

Original Quote
If you love someone, Set her free... If she comes back, she's yours, If she doesn't, she never was....
The new versions.....
Pessimist:

If you love someone, Set her free ... If she ever comes back, she's yours, If she doesn't, as expected, she never was
Optimist:

If you love someone, Set her free ... Don't worry, she will come back.
Suspicious:

If you love someone, Set her free ... If she ever comes back, ask her why.
Impatient:

If you love someone, Set her free ... If she doesn't come back within some time forget her.
Patient:

If you love someone, Set her free ... If she doesn't come back, continue to wait until she comes back ...
Playful:

If you love someone, Set her free ... If she comes back, and if you love her still, set her free again, repeat
If you love someone, Set her free, In fact, all living creatures deserve to be free!!
Lawyers:

If you love someone, Set her free, If she comes back, I think we can charge her for re-installation fees but tell her that she's also going to get an upgrade.
Biologist :

If you love someone set her free instantaneously and look for others simultaneously

moving on...

The sun's hotness...
the night so cold..
rain came pouring..
sadness shrinking.

the wind keep blowin'
autumn leaves fallin'
the great horned owls flying..
sober moments vanishing.

silence from the deepness of the sea...
the moon eclipsed...
a fruit fell down from a tree...
happiness conquered everything.

the part of being nocturnal...

Stars shines brightly..
coldness of the night enveloping me..
clouds kneads my dreams completely..
water from the sky pours to the ground deeply.

The birds fly freely..
Leaves falling peacefully...
caress of the wind blow..
laughter i hear from my soul.

In a dark recess of a hovel..
Was a poor bed in which a happy man is lying..
a man of novel...
formulating his thoughts, while staring at the dim light that the moon is providing.


Oh my night! Oh my night!
give me that light..
the light of new beginning..
Indicating a new living.

Let not define you as sadness..
Tell 'em why you're sober..
if they could just see the brilliance in you..
and witness the beauty in you...

They would never sleep..

judge me not..

have you seen my childhood?
have you seen those painful years of my life?
before you judge me..
try to love me harder..

coz you've never been with me..
you still don't know me..
and if you do..
you'll see the brilliance in me..


have you seen my emptiness?
have you seen even a drop of tear in my eyes?
have you seen my heart suffered?
coz if you don't ,you'll never see my worth..

have you seen me scared?
have you seen me brave?
my soul cries out..
I know you can't hear it...

so judge me not...
for all you know is nothing...

Insomnia...

I've been suffering for the past 4 days of my life and i really hate the feeling. I just can't help it. I really wanted to go back to the time where i have normal sleeps. i wanna cry out loud! It's really hard. I hate this feeling. How do I get away with this?please help me guys!might be the reason why i am always irritated most especially with the little this. hahahaizzz

small things irritates me..

for whatever reasons it may be, i don't know.. i just felt it the whole day today (Sept 9, 2009). And i really hate the feeling because in some point it's been painful to some of my friends because of my harsh words uttered inevitably. what can i do? that's part of being human.."imperfection" as what they say.. and it's normal right? it will really occur to our moods..but at least i have said my sorry to them..hahahaiz... it's so crazy!

The curse bestowed on you...

Memories of our yesterday are killing fields in my thought..
I can't picture clearly my own poor beaten body...
full of lacerations, lesions, and cuts...

My chest lays open...
and my broken heart goes out...
how can God forgive you?
for the brutal crime you have done to me...

You came to me as an invader..
I welcomed you as a soldier...
As the news hits the paper..
This whole world of mine felt asunder..

On the 24th of October we've made an agreement..
But on the 25th of December we've lost our commitment..
May the wrath of the lightning hits your ego..
And one day you'll regret of letting me go..

You are an invader armed with dishonesty and lies..
And i am a soldier armed with love that never dies...

The real love requires

RELATE ON THIS GUYS: "kill a calf , you only get veal, kill a cow, you get meal upon meal"

This might sound funny to you guys, and you maybe laughing when you read it.

The very essence of this saying is "SACRIFICE". Which usually people do not know how. Why can't you have the small pleasures and the greater joys?, The usual questions that linger unto our minds.

I thought i could have just about anything i wanted when i was young. I wanted all the small pleasures and great joy. I realize now I was just selfish...

In my own opinion the quote is saying that if you're forever putting your energy into fulfilling small pleasures, into immediate gratification, you're not building foundations that the real love requires. I guess you're only kidding yourself.

the ART of letting go...

what is really the right way to say goodbye to a person?how do we really need to say it?over the phone? or do things they don't like so that they will do it for you? how?

well, for me; its never about how you say it. it is how you mean it, your sincerity must be your priority before you utter the word goodbye!hmmmp, and be sure that you have think a million times before you decide. because you need to be sure of things!so whenever you want to say goodbye mean it!

a great song ever heard!

hello guys! its been a long time right?well,i got busy with things this past few days! anyways, i am here now again to express my love to a very touching old song! you are the love of my life by Michael W. Smith. i think you've got to listen to it. i am very much sure u will like it ! and love it. because it's a great song with a great lyrics!and of course, the melody is nearly perfection. it can really touch one's live!thank you and GOD BLESS!

realization of truth...

He gave us eyes to see the truth..
not lies...

He gave us ears to listen...
not to refuse to hear..

He gave us mouth for justice
and not for judgments..

He gave us nose to smell the best..
and never the worse..

He gave us hands to lend...
and not to hurt...

He gave us feet to walk..
to walk the path leading to his portals...

BUT how come your going NOWHERE?

my outlet to sadness

I am really into musics and movies, i love mellow musics; songs with deeper meanings, songs about realities in life. I can say that music is one of my outlet 2nd to poetry when it comes to expression of feelings. most especially when my whole being is filled with sadness. i really don't know , but its the first thing that pop into my mind when am needing of something to release every pain in my heart, maybe because it is the only thing that can give a person a sudden comfort for a sudden sadness. I also love movies like naked weapon, the note books and all other best dramatic movies on earth. So guys, for you to have a quality over quantity products. go to the smartest web store on earth. the Smartzplace. And to avail the shipping discounts from U.S to U. K..

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lets love nature

i was really amazed when i saw this melissa products. It is indeed unique and safe.

When it comes to personalized promotional products, green is in. ecological awareness is very significant. It can really help us especially nowadays we are suffering from pollutions and the like.
Recycled product is a terrific choice. it is a great choice for the people, and to all the people..
and melissa products gives you the best choice.

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"save our mother earth" as what the saying goes that is why i am promoting this products not just because of its aesthetic creations from clothes to skin care products but also of their love for the nature and love for the world that in time we would be able to realize that we can do more for the earth..and for the people.
they sell everything green and Eco friendly and produced ethically.

dino's bday!

hello guys! today (august 22, 2009) i got a sudden invitation from a very special friend..it was so sudden that i dont have time to change clothes. But because i love him, i took the risk of going out with my super ragged outfit. We first went to circuit restaurant to have our dinner there, but unfortunately, no availability of food for dine in, so we decided to go to a very simple bbq house and celebrated there. we really had fun there! and it is funnier because of hashim's jokes... hehehe..at the end of the day, all of the memories from dimes flashed back.. all the good memories we spent together. i wish it would happen again someday..

let me whisper to you...

hey guys!just want to share something! well, i was about to log off when i inevitably glanced at my nephew while he sleeps, and i saw him hugging his pillow; i have noticed that it was his favorite thing ever, then a question occurred on my mind, of all the things that my family is giving him, why that old pillow? why not his shoes? shirts? slippers?socks?shades? and the like. well , i guess it's the comfort that the pillow can give him...

a kiss?

how do you define kiss?

well, according to the dictionary; it is a touch or caress with the lips. But for me, its beyond it! it is magic.. that gives you a magical feeling when you got one. it's the feeling of floating in the air where in fact your not. it's the feeling of touching the sky, where the truth is it's all imaginations, it's one form of perfection! so just kiss guys! take care always!

center bliss

hey guys! i just wanna share something about the feeling of having an angel inside the family..

a drop of tears he cries, gives us happiness



every noise heard, gives us comfort..



every wink of an eye, gives us strength ...



every time he calls our name, gives us courage..



his smile.. shines like a ray of light ..



his lips... like a cherry...



indeed a nearly perfection creation of god!

expression of irritation..

hey guys! i wander why there are still lots of people who still utter worthless words! and fight over paltry reasons. I sigh! This week has been so stressful to me that i find it difficult to distress myself. Hopefully, i could find a way to it! at least i still manage to smile.. i have no choice i guess but to live life lightly..hahaha..

Palaver...

heya guys! this has been the most tiring day for me, (August 19, 2009) it feels like the day was enveloped with the coldness of boredom. I got an idly talks with my friends, for whatever reasons it is, i don't know. But i have come to a realization that at one point in our lives, we will really experience this feeling with the people we are with in our daily existence, That it is important sometimes to keep space and distance from them. So, at least when we see each other again, you will have your reasons to to hug and kiss them and say I MISS YOU!..hehe hope you'll learn something from this. thank you and GODBLESS!

who wants to suffer from destruction or ruin?

no one for sure right?i have been so stressed whenever i watched news on television, covering same old disastrous scenarios between two different Filipino groups having miscommunications,differences, opposite perceptions and the like who are just actually making things complicated. I really wander, why they don't realized that a lot of people were perished because of what they are fighting for, because of what they thought is right. I just pray that one day, we all find the essence of tranquility in our hearts, especially them. thank you guys!keep reading my blogs

Are you so sensitive?

relate on this: this is something very visible to my everyday life. We have a friend, and she always throw her angst to us often times, that she is so fed up with the usual routines they have with her bf, that her bf is so insensitive, numb and the like. They sometimes fight in front of us and they both call each other insensitive. one time my friend talked to me, and she said, " am i really that sensitive that am deeply in pain?" and i said " no..you are insensitive enough not to consider his feelings too.. and and that's being selfish"


Learning: you are so insensitive. this line is actually easy for us to utter, but hard to understand. Did you know that the most sensitive person is the most insensitive person on earth?why?simply because you are too busy listening to yourself and not considering the other person's feelings. how do you call yourself then? insensitive right?

What change the world needs?

hey guys! here i am again..just want to share some thoughts...


relate on this: I wish i could change the world into one where there is abundance instead of poverty. Love instead of hatred, Peace instead of war.

Well, actually change can give us good. But on the other hand, it can also be devastating. Change is something that is difficult to achieve, Unless we individuals are willing to accept the fact that it has to start within a person...

However, there are certain things in life also that can not be change. The best thing to do is to accept that they really exist and make the most out of it. like, when poverty does not exist, richness would not be appreciated, If there's no Hatred, Love received wont be valued. And if there is no War, How would you define peace?!

So whatever it is, We just need to do the right thing, so guys i'll start doing my part now, how about you?will you? think about it..

shake the stress away..

hey guys!i would just like to share some personal tips about how to get away with stress..hehe..these are with accordance to my experiences and i am confident enough that these are evidently effective..let me start by stating my own experiences and very recently i experienced another set of it. few days ago, i was very stressed with some friends who are very poor in understanding, and have greater wrong perceptions about the real essence of friendship. it is indeed annoying because i have matured insights about what life is really about. It came to a point that they ruined my day at one time because of there presence plus i have some personal issues and problems, so maybe that's why..i have learned that sometimes you really have to find ways to get away with it. and these are some solutions that for me the best formula for your own betterment. the first thing to do actually is to do the things you want to do. like, if you are into cooking, then cook. 2nd, family break.. sometimes we human beings really have to be alone... this doesnt mean a very long vacation, perhaps you may just need a 15 mins. time for walking, 3rd.. find the things that stressed you, know the reason why you're stressed and look to a brighter side of life. 4th is to simplify your life. it's this wont take a genius to understand, "say no to complications". 5th learn to say no!, how many times have you said yes, but you meant no? i hope you got it.. limit yourself from saying something you dont really mean. last but importantly, Do not expect EVERYTHING to be PERFECT. thank you..i pray that you'll learn something from this. GODBLESS!



a piece of advice: DO NOT LET SADNESS FILLS YOUR WHOLE BEING

Rule of Four

hi everyone one...another informative blog i would love to share with to you guys...this maybe familiar to some but not to all..and this really according to some factual evidences .. that a man can live for
FOUR weeks without FOOD, Four days without WATER, and FOUR minutes without
AIR... you having second thoughts about it?you in doubts? then try to believe...hehe..atleast you would know your capacities as an individual living without some of major needs for living...

SUPERCALIFRAGELISTICEXPEALIDOCIOUS

this poem is very special, because i wrote it myself for a good friend..



Ritzy define this young girl,
walking around she owns the world,
Melancholic road shines like a pearl,
Precious gem is what i see her.

Days passed by,
Smiles from within,
Everything has jibe by and by,
Momentum starts for us, I deem.

News hitting the papers she does not care,
Feels like mellifluous drop of tears we wont see,
Angst to throw no one dares,
Essence of tranquility's within thee.

fastidious girl shes not,
Simple hangouts her tavern,
She sings a lot,
Attentions she earn.

take a look at her ,
her skin dove's fur,
her eyes stars glitter,
her lip's every guys' after.

her life's perfection,
danced with her physical outlook's nearly perfection,
burden you wont see,
her world's total bliss.

Getting into a room of realization.....
behind her elegance....
is a simple woman who fights....
who fight the world's game.......take a look at her....
catch JOANNA MARIAN!!!
from:
jiv..:]

a piece of advice...

listen to the exhortation of the sky..

to make u realize the verities and realities of ur existence…

“i have given u night to think of your dreams…

and a day to pursue it..”

love and lie..

They say you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince
Took so long to find that I thought he didn’t exist, wasn’t convinced
But babe seems you got me believing once again in a fairytale
Love shown each and everyday is proving maybe this time it will prevail

Always been quick to fall in the past, giving into dangerous desire
Then realizing I’d only found Mr cheater, Mr Wrong and Mr liar
Only this time it feels so different, thinking I’ve found Mr right
A once broken and shattered heart you’ve caused to ignite

Tried so hard to fight how I felt, all of those growing feelings
Only now I’m feeling sure, this is one love that’s so appealing
Caring, gentle, kind, affectionate…finally found my lover
Never would have guessed I had so much to learn and discover

Always fell for the bad guy, proceeded without hesitation
Each and every time, heartbreak was my only destination
This time feeling so safe and loved, yearning for your touch
Never would have guessed it possible for me to love so much

Only been a short time, but I’d be bereft without you in my life
Would be trying to live, but already know I would only survive
Days would be long, nights so empty, leaving me cold and frozen
I’d finally truly understand the meaning of being heart broken

They say you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince
Took so long to find that I thought he didn’t exist, wasn’t convinced
But babe seems you got me believing me once again in a fairytale
Love shown each and everyday is proving maybe this time it will prevail

waitin for my soldier to return

I will wait for you; my darling,
Holding my breath,
And fighting the fear of losing you,
Standing here, deep in thought,
Our eyes locked,
Sympathy for those who didn’t come back,
Knowing I am lucky to hold you again,
Our hearts racing,
Your mind wanders to your boys,
The ones who wouldn’t return,
My soul shimmers
And yours is charred and black,
I haven’t seen what you have known,
I will never truly understand,
The sight of blood dripping, pouring,
From wounds of enemy guns,
The screams; the nightmares of friends who never came home,
It plagues you in the darkness,
And images sting your eyes in the light,
One kiss and embrace, the world seems at peace,
The whole of me is grateful for you,
And I thank God that your time was not up,
I pray for Him to keep you safe,
And I pray for Him to comfort those in my position,
Waiting for their soldier to return.

relate on this..

Daily life:
We are a village of people over here, like you are over there. We live and work together, we get along well or not, but we learn from each other as you do. Each encounter throughout your day is valuable. Try to notice each one and learn from it. What did you feel, what did the other person feel? Did you act in the best interests of everyone or just yourself? Search your heart and find out how well you behaved today. By this we mean, did you have your mental ‘hand on your heart’? Were you aware and awake? Wake up to what is around you, it is all for your use to learn and grow.

Faithfulness:

An ancient tale, one that we can bring to modern times. Offering a cup may be symbolic of offering oneself. To offer one-self implies dedication of the self to that person. No one is going to say that a relationship must be forever, but be clear about who and what you want and stay faithful to that idea. It is easy to waver off the path when we lose sight of our goals. It shows the importance of centring oneself in life so that our feet are on the ground, even while our heads are in the clouds. We should lift ourselves up, but we need to keep a clear vision of where we are going and what we are about Who I Want to Meet:
In the sweetness of friendship; let there be laughter and the sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.

my sapient intentions

i really dont know how to start perfectly, but let me start it from introducing myself.. i am rajiv adrie a 23-year-old guy who lives in a very sapient family and in a very conservative small town of philippines, in cotabato city. I am here to share to you some parts of mylife. With my writings, I wish you will gain learnings somehow..about the essence of life..and the journey of mylife..They say that failure is fatal....but for me, never was...why? just keep reading my blogs.